As hard as it is, the next time your child cries when it’s time to be left with the sitter, you need to leave anyway. Just like with accidental positive reinforcement, the next step is to STOP! It will be hard to do, but it will be worth it in the end. What unpleasant situations are you allowing your child to get out of by throwing a tantrum? Some of the most common offenses occur at bed time, bath time, and meal time. Just like with positive reinforcement, your first step in regaining control is to monitor your own responses. You can easily see how quickly negative reinforcement can spiral out of control and leave you feeling helpless in changing your child’s behavior. They have figured out how to get out of an unpleasant situation, just scream and cry! The child learns that by screaming and crying that they will NOT be left with a babysitter. In this example, the behavior is screaming and crying and the unpleasant situation that they are escaping from is being left with a babysitter. If your child screams and cries when you are getting ready to leave, and you stay home instead of going out, then you have rewarded his behavior through negative reinforcement. Negative reinforcement occurs when your child exhibits a behavior, like crying, whining, or throwing a tantrum, and as a result they get out of something that they perceive as unpleasant, like taking a bath or going to bed.įor example, let’s say your child hates it when you leave him with a babysitter. Just like with accidental positive reinforcement, parents can fall victim to the negative reinforcement spiral. My example was that by paying attention to my kids when they interrupt me on the phone, I am actually increasing the likelihood that they will interrupt me again in the future! Certainly not what I had in mind! Positive reinforcement occurs when you reward or reinforce a behavior and then that behavior increases. I call it accidental because you’re usually not intending to do it, and sometimes you’re not even aware that you are doing it! In my last blog post I talked about how parents like me sometimes give “accidental” positive reinforcement, often in the form of attention, to their kids even when their child is doing something that they don’t like.
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